‘Sex is not something to be ashamed of!’ Abhay Deol speaks up on Mumbai hotels raid

| Wednesday, August 12, 2015 - 16:50
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Abhay Deol speaks up on Mumbai hotels raid

MUMBAI: Mumbai Police recently raided several hotels in the city and detained 40 couples for alleged ‘indecent behaviour’. However, Joint Commissioner of Police (law and order) Deven Bharti admitting that it was the mistake of the police to do so said that the entire operation got ‘messed up’.
The raids that were reportedly carried out following‘unverified’ information that ‘prostitution-like activities’ were happening there were slammed by several people from the tinsel town. 
People caught by the police narrating their horrific experience informed of the ‘humiliation’ they suffered while being in the police custody. “The police first insulted all of us in front of all the officers and the other couples and then forced us to call our parents and insulted and disgraced us in front of them. They also made the parents feel guilty as if their children had committed some heinous crime,” a youngster shared.
“I am literally contemplating ending my life because of the trauma and the stigma from the raid. I haven't been able to step out of the house and my parents have also not spoken a single word to me since this morning,” a 19-year-old girl told a leading daily.
On the other hand, ridiculed by the police and insulted by everyone present at the station, a 21-year-old told another newspaper, “I am not a prostitute. I am an adult who was out with my fiancé; who I am supposed to marry next month, to find some privacy. I had entered my name in the hotel register with my identity proof and also handed over the relevant documents when asked by the cops. But, when I tried to tell a female constable all of this, she slapped me.”
While people like Rohan Joshi of AIB expressed their agitation against the move on micro-blogging site Twitter along with M, this is how Bollywood actor Abhay Deol protested against the action today on his Facebook page.
Believing that the word ‘sex’ is nothing more than a taboo nowadays, Deol wrote,
Even I am baffled by our society’s obsession with sex.
I enjoy it, I crave it, I pursue it. I don’t hide the fact. I feel a tinge of shame admitting it. It always takes a moment for 
the logical part of my brain to put the shame aside, and I see reason.
I have come to believe my sense of shame comes from my upbringing. I was brought up by the same values as any other from my country, which may come as a surprise to those who think people born into the film industry are brought up with a different set of values (usually loose and privileged). So I get it. The taboo that comes with the topic of sex in my society.
But booking young kids for a crime they didn’t commit, physically and mentally abusing them publicly? To me it looks more like it was the police that was guilty of 'public indecency'.
All this because they were young adults having sex. How liberated can you be!? They must be punished. By any law out there.
Many believe moral policing is a way to get rid of ‘western influences’, like liberal views on sex (it always starts with those) within our society. That there are outdated British laws from the Victorian age on sex and sexuality still in effect in India today, is lost on those constantly claiming that liberal views on sex (such as premarital sex) come from Western countries, and conservative views come from India.
I’m not going to cite ‘the Kama Sutra’ as an example.
The last I remember, my country has a written history that is a few thousand years old. It is full of stories of kings and queens, of kingdoms and communities, coexisting mostly peacefully, with an invasion every now and then. People from all over the world converged upon my country, staking their claim, leaving their mark. The culture of the region however, always held onto its roots no matter who currently ruled it. That is how I see morals. They are relative to those who rule. Principles on the other hand, are unchangeable, they are at the root of my culture. That’s what I was taught, so If we have a ‘moral police’, then why not a ‘principal police’ as well?
I guess I have resigned myself to a society mistaking itself to be the custodian of my culture.
Oops...there I go...thinking of sex again...
Is that indecent to admit publicly?”

SEX!Even I am baffled by our society’s obsession with sex.I enjoy it, I crave it, I pursue it. I don’t hide the...

Posted by Abhay Deol on Tuesday, August 11, 2015

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It is just childish to blame

It is just childish to blame upbringing as the reason for excessive indulgence in sex, as does Abhay Deol. If one can leave aside indiscriminate police action and their arrogance, excessive and non-value based sex is indulged in only by animals. For, animals discharge just a biological function and nothing else. But humans have an additional and civilized function, that of treating the other on par with yourself. When sex becomes the sole criterion, the partner would invariably be reduced to a sex tool. Whatever sophistication you bring in, behind the facade you see him/her just as a tool to fulfill your sex urge. And sex being an unstoppable urge, there is no way you come to terms with it whatever be the number of partners you indulge with. This apart, human dignity does not consist in throwing away your body to whosoever you come across. That way you do not respect yourself. From both points of view the upbringing that consists in de-emphasizing and properly channelizing sex urge is eminently justified. The sense of shame that Abhay Deol, and certainly many others, feels comes from a sense of reducing ourselves to a bestial level by shamelessly giving into an expediency.

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